As We Affirm Who We Are, We Become Who We Are
Who is the person I call me?
I spent years of my life identifying as the person everyone else defined me to be. I doubt there is enough space on this page to list all the words that others have used to identify “me” over the last sixty-nine years – short, shy, controlling, confident, too thin, too fat, codependent, bossy, wise, lost, broken, strong, pretty, not pretty enough. Many of these I have held onto as defining elements of who I am, even when I knew deep down that they never really fit.
How do we discover who we truly are in a world with so many voices and so much noise? Life is a journey filled with twists and turns; wins and losses, and true growth and awareness often require us to choose a new path and break from our herd. This isn’t easy. There is a certain level of safety and security in the herd – especially when you find the right group of people to walk alongside - but the herd can also require conformity and a loss of individualism.
Over a lifetime, most of us will try to step out of our herd, test the waters, rush back; sneak out – panic – tiptoe back; stumble out – fall – crawl back. These are steps in a dance to find ourselves and walk in our truth. It takes courage to surrender our old labels and embrace new dreams, and it can be confusing to those around us, who believe they know us best. After all, you’re walking in the same body, but you are no longer the same person.
Most will opt to stay with their herd and live safely and content within the orderliness of this system. But others will feel a need to break free and fight to escape their perceived confines by stepping into an unknown field of possibilities. Refusing to stay stuck in a place where they feel they no longer belong; they will seek adoption in a new herd that better suits them - surrounding themselves with supportive people who accept them for who they are and encourage them in their growth.
This new life often comes at a cost. We must do the work, face the demons, and work through our fears. It is while embracing our moments of brokenness and uncertainty that we find the true strength that lies within each of us. These new insights can empower each of us to take the leap and embrace the magic, adventure, and mystery that this life has to offer.
Who we are is fluid and cannot be defined by anyone but us. It requires us to be brave and keep living and growing. I am not who I was a year ago, a week ago, or a minute ago. I am a canvas, and life is my paint brush - adding strokes of color, depth, and shadows with each experience. Discovering “Me” is the miracle of each day I am gifted to walk this earth.
Old identities and labels are not easy to shed, and they tend to re-emerge when you least expect them – tapping you on the shoulder nonchalantly – hoping you will re-engage. But now I greet these saboteurs as friends. They are a part of me, but a part of my past.
There are many ways to live this life, but when we love and accept who we are, we can allow others to walk their path and be happy as well. YOU are the creator of YOUR own destiny.
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What is Life Coaching?
Coaching is a forward-looking approach to healing and growth. I create a non-judgement space for you to gain confidence, shatter your negative limiting beliefs, implement goals, and start living in a place of peace and abundance. Are you willing to get uncomfortable, challenge your comfort zone, and take steps to reclaim control of your life?
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